Forget doom and gloom in the bedroom at the big four-oh—your sex life can definitely improve, according to research: Women grow increasingly satisfied with their sex lives after they turn 40. Here’s to you, indeed, Mrs. Robinson! Five reasons why:
1. You’re much more comfortable with your body.
You’ve seen how much your body can endure, and as a result you’re more appreciative of it. All that pays off in the bedroom: Those in their 40s were less self conscious about their bodies than younger women and, as a result, were more comfortable in between the sheets.
They’re more practical about their needs: They understand that they may not always be able to have an orgasm through intercourse, and that they may also need a vibrator or clitoral stimulation. This can lead to a more satisfying experience, obviously. Also, going through the ups and downs of life gives you the gift of perspective: Women at this age don’t freak out about their cellulite.
2. Your life has calmed down.
Most women spend their 30s either pregnant or with young children, which is a real stressor (There’s no bigger libido killer than shrieking toddlers outside your room.) Now that you’re no longer three (or four, or five) in a bed, and no longer getting woken up at the crack of dawn, you’ll have more energy for the finer things in life—sex among them.3. You’re getting a hormonal surge.
While estrogen levels may be dipping during this decade, there’s a silver lining: As you start going through perimenopause, your body’s testosterone remains unchanged, while estrogen decreases, creating a high testosterone to estrogen level in your blood. Testosterone can perk up your sex drive, and you can find yourself hungering after your partner more during this time.
4. You’re newly single.
With the upsurge of online dating (Tinder, anyone?) it’s not likely you’ll be alone for long. And with your new single gal status comes a sense of sexual freedom: Once women are out of monogamy, many rediscover their sexuality, which is very freeing for them.
5. You’re evolutionarily hardwired for it.
A ticking biological clock may actually increase your libido. Why? One theory is that back in the caveman days when moms commonly lost babies, they felt pressure to churn out as many as possible. As fertility declined with age, researchers say that women who remained more sexually active were more likely to be successful in producing offspring.